1. Free yourself from negativity
Everything we blame, we are stuck with. Bless it. Wish it well. Wish it its own freedom. If you don’t forgive it or wish it well, the energy will just be magnetically drawn back to you because it is looking for resolution.
2. Keep a gratitude journal
The lens through which we see the world changes when we practice gratitude every day. It sounds simple, but when we go through the day staying conscious about what we are grateful for, our paradigms’ shift. It has been found if you wake up every morning and note down three things you are grateful for (they have to be new each day) then people who were testing as low-level pessimists will test as low-level optimists after 21-consecutive days. It sounds small, but here’s the amazing thing. Harvard researcher Shawn Achor says we can do this with 84-year olds with genes for pessimism. If you can do this for 21 days, even if you have practiced pessimism for eight decades of your life – even if you were born with genes for pessimism – two minutes could trump your genes and environment.
3. Live a life of service
The key to realising your dreams is not to focus on success, but on service. Making the shift from self to service brings an immeasurable amount of fulfilment to our jobs, relationships, and the vision we have for our best life. In the Power of Myth, Joseph Campbell coined the phrase ‘follow your bliss’. Campbell studied all human stories, mythologies and religions and this was his advice to us. Pay attention to those moments when you are lit up, when time just flies by, and then use it to serve the world. So instead of, “What can I get? How can I take? How can I manipulate?” the question is, “What can I give?”
4. Take responsibility for your energy
Harvard brain scientist Dr Jill Bolte Taylor experienced the power of collective energy when she suffered a devastating hemorrhagic stroke, wiping out the function for the much of brain. With no memory or language recognition, Jill became acutely aware of the energy surrounding her, as she embarked on her long road to recovery. As doctors, nurses, and visitors entered her hospital room, Jill came to realise there are only two types of people in the world – those who bring energy, and those who drain it away. The request Jill made of every person who came into contact with her throughout her recovery was, “Please take responsibility for the energy you bring into this space.” Each one of us holds the power to transform our collective consciousness.
5. All we have to do is express our humanity
Sister Joan Chittister was 12 when she came home and her little parakeet was gone. She was an only child and the bird was her companion. She didn’t go home to playmates, she went home to Billy. And now Billy was missing. In the Wisdom of Sundays, she goes on to say:
My father moved every piece of furniture in that apartment. My mother looked under every chair. I got into bed and I sobbed. I knew I had to be quiet. I couldn’t disturb anybody. But I was crying, my little body heaving. And the next thing I knew was I felt someone on the floor beside me, and them an arm on my back, and I realised it was my mother. And then I felt somebody on the floor on the other side, and I realised it was my father, and they had their arms around me saying, “That’s all right, darling. We understand. That’s all right.” As I look back over the years, that’s when I learnt that humanity is about identifying with somebody else’s pain. Humanity is the ability to hurt for others. Because that’s the only fuel that will stop the injustice.